My Brown-Eyed Girl

I have to say, I LOVE Abby's big, brown eyes.  I think they are beautiful and every time she looks at me with them I just melt.  She has her dad's eyes and I get to see him every day through them.  In fact, my husband's eyes were the first thing I noticed and loved about him, so I think it is fitting that our first born should have them!

My two Loves and their matching eyes

That all being said, I think that the overwhelming bias for light eyes is ridiculous or at least makes people say ridiculous things.  I remember when I was pregnant and people who knew what Rock looked like would say things like "she will be so pretty if she has his hair and your [blue] eyes" or "oh wow, I bet you want her to have dark hair and light eyes" or something of that nature.  To which I made it a point to say "I think she'll be beautiful no matter what."  But it secretly bothered me because (while I doubt any of those people meant it) the implication was that she wouldn't be as beautiful with dark eyes.  

Big Brown Eyes in Sepia

Just the other day I was talking to a guy who works in our apartment complex's leasing office.  He is half Asian and he was telling me about his 3 month old daughter and asking my advice on a few things.  He showed me a picture of his daughter (who is 1/4 Asian) and then said "Yeah, she has blue eyes so we got lucky."  That quote instantly snapped me back to the feeling I had when I was pregnant and then I told him that Abby was 1/4 Hispanic and had big brown eyes that I love and that if she didn't have them you may not know that she was Hispanic because everything else like her skin and hair are all light so she was lucky to have them.   

She was eavesdropping if you couldn't tell by her curious/nosey expression

I grew up in a family where everyone has light eyes (either blue or green) so it makes sense that I would like dark eyes because that is a feature that is different from what I saw often.  I also understand that someone that grew up in an opposite situation would feel the same way about light eyes.  But I think it is time we stopped assuming EVERY person wants the same thing.  I doubt people would say to me "I bet you want her to have your light skin so she doesn't look Hispanic," yet they didn't think twice to say the blue eyes comment.

Someone bumped her noggin (again...)

I guess it also bothered me because I didn't care if she had dark skin, hair and eyes or light skin, hair and eyes or any mix thereof because she is my daughter and I would love her no matter what.

One of my favorite bedtime stories to read to Abby

So Abby, my sweet, smart, funny and beautiful little girl, I love your big, brown eyes!  I love how expressive they are and how they can tell me how you feel.  I love that they look like your daddy's eyes yet are still very uniquely your own.  I love how you already know how to bat those eyelashes to flirt and that you squint them up to do a stinker girl face.  You are my amazing little brown-eyed girl and I hope that you never feel bad because you don't have any other color eyes than the spectacular color that they are!!  I love you just the way you are, Abby G!  

May you always love that unique and fun person who looks back at you in the mirror because there is no one else like you!

(Oh by the way, as I type this, Abby is undoing the velcro on her diaper and running around naked-booty-cheeks style!!)